How Progressive is Your Team’s Offense?

Written and Submitted by Adam Bradley
Founder & President, Lead ‘Em Up

Coaches want to win and in many cases, coaches ‘need’ to win.

The pressure, desires and urgency are all there and because of that, coaches make decisions that’ll impact today. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. We need to win now.

Unfortunately with leadership training, the process is cumulative. You see growth over time, little by little and the “time” will vary from player to player.

Coaches pour into their players despite the possibilities of never seeing and personally experiencing the fruit of their labor. Sometimes the light doesn’t go off for the player until a year after they’ve left their program. Perhaps longer. That’s not always the case but in many cases it is.

If you implement a full-court press, you’ll be able to see some form of resemblance to the press by the end of practice. On the flipside if you’re coaching your player to lead and live a certain way, that message may take longer to be received. But should we not still teach it?

The ultimate win is not on the scoreboard; it’s in the lives you impact. It’s in creating tomorrow’s leaders. Our job as coaches is to help produce champions on and off the court. It’s not always easy to do because of the pressure to win on the scoreboard, but it’s well worth the time and effort.

Here are 3-tips to help allow you achieve the ultimate win:

1 – Recognize small things as big things

We often overlook many of our successes in leadership development because they don’t present themselves in large ways. We find ourselves looking for that Hollywood scene where the team is in trouble and our quiet, reserved player breaks out of their shell, rally’s the team and becomes the heroic leader that saves the day. When we fail to see that, we think we’re not making progress. That’s not how it works.

Your player’s growth in leadership occurs in small ways. Remember, it’s cumulative, it’ll start small and it’ll be a series of small things that when put together show a major change and establish momentum.

For example, this past Spring I spent the season as the leadership coach on a local Varsity baseball team. One exercise we do in Lead ‘Em Up is an exercise called “Head Down, Look Up – Race to Erase.” It’s an exercise designed for our players to help each other’s confidence and better rebound from their mistakes.

The situation was this: it was the bottom of the 5th inning and we were up 8. In Maryland high school baseball if you’re up 8 after 5 you win. We put our star pitcher in to close it down. Unfortunately we allowed 3 unearned runs that inning after the centerfielder misplayed a fly ball. At the end of the inning, the pitcher started making his way to the dugout when right before he got to the first base line, he stopped and turnaround to greet the centerfielder and give him a fist pump and tap on the helmet simply telling him “it’s all good, we’ve got this, lets keep going.” The pitcher exemplified exactly what we had discussed a few days priors about “racing to erase” any frustrations, negative emotions in our teammates when they make a mistake.
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I can promise you, NO ONE in the entire park that day saw what I saw, despite the magnitude of the situation. Here was a player who had many challenges throughout the year, take a moment to turn their focus off of them, recall something he was taught and serve his teammate in a major way. He showed control over the moment, not allowing the moment to have control over him. He didn’t possess this ability early in the season.

This behavior was praised and repeated by the pitcher in future games. This behavior was also repeated by the teammate who received the embrace from his pitcher.

This small thing… was actually a BIG thing. When you’re coaching your players in more than just the X’s and O’s, you’re winning; you just have to look harder for the wins.

2 – Hold onto the sentiments from alumni

Most youth and high school players have a difficult time communicating their feelings which means they don’t communicate their appreciation for what you’re doing, enough. I see time and time again alumni come back to the program a few years removed with a much greater sense of maturity and communicate their appreciation.

Your players come back and remarkably remember small details of things you said or did in practice and games. They begin to show their gratitude for what you did for them and the impact and experience you provided. Every coach I know loves receiving this feedback and almost always comments that they “wish they knew the player cared this much back then.”

Don’t glance over this. This is important. Your players felt what you were doing, at the time you were doing it, despite not having the maturity to communicate it. You pouring into them is filling them up. In a young players world, there are a small number of individuals who have the ability to influence over them, you’re one of them. Don’t take that responsibility lightly.

3 – Remember your journey

I am so thankful so many coaches in my life were willing to make that sacrifice and intentionally try to develop me in more ways than just the game. Think back to your journey; did coaches pour into you and did it take some time before you truly “got it?” I’d imagine so.

I wish I could’ve been the person I am today back then so they wouldn’t have felt like they were spinning their wheels to get me going. I’m just thankful they kept spinning.

Coaches – teaching the game and X’s & O’s is critical and essential to your success. You teaching them life, leadership & character is essential to their success. Let’s be thankful we “get” the opportunity to be one of the influencers in our players’ lives.

Have fun and Lead ‘Em Up!

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Coquese Washington: The Relational Leader

By Dr. Cory Dobbs

COQUESE WASHINGTON
HEAD BASKETBALL COACH PENN STATE, 2007 – 2019
Currently assistant at Oklahoma

In his best-selling book, First things First, organizational expert Stephen Covey opens with an essential leadership question:  “If you were to pause and think seriously about the ‘first things’ in your life—the three or four things that matter most—what would they be?”

Coquese Washington, assistant women’s basketball coach at Oklahoma, has thoughtfully answered this demanding question.  As a coach of a major college women’s basketball program, a former professional player and collegiate student-athlete, Washington has pulled resources from her vast experience to bring together a set of principles that, while not necessarily complex, are very practical.  Stressing a family approach to team building and a leadership focus on excellence, Washington is clear on her “first things.”

For Washington, relationship building is exalted as one of the most important factors in driving performance and ultimately the success of the team.  In the interest of putting first things first, Washington establishes the relationship building process at the very beginning—recruiting the right people to join her program.

“Relationship building starts right away.  For us relationship building begins in the recruiting process.  We put a lot of effort into identifying what kind of players we can coach well.  There’s a certain type of player I can coach well, given their temperament, personality, and such things as what’s important to them.  We try to do a great job identifying players that can come into the Penn State culture and thrive in the larger community—and in our women’s basketball community.  It’s imperative that we bring in players that are a good fit for the culture here.”

These days the demands on leaders can be crushing.  To survive, many leaders simply look to fill positions with people qualified to perform the work, not necessarily a fit with the organization’s culture.

The problem with hiring only for skills and ability rather than for fit with culture is illuminated in the dynamics of the team building process.  When personalities clash, rather than click, and the culture of your team won’t inspire cooperation and collaboration, you’re likely to end up with a dysfunctional team.

“We have a humorous way of looking at recruiting to our culture.  We say we don’t like to manage drama, so we don’t recruit drama.”

Ultimately, team dynamics will determine the environment in which work happens, and to a large extent, the quality of a team’s results.  For success to be experienced everyday interactions must meet a test: Is the way we communicate together helping or hindering the team’s ability to make progress?

“For us, relationship building—developing relationships—is every bit as important as the game.”

It’s evident, that for Washington, it is the quality of relationships woven into the fabric of teamwork that makes all the difference.  The inherent tension that exists as individuals work to become a team is accounted for and used to develop positive and enduring relationships.

“For me communication is about connecting and building strong relationships.  To connect with my staff and my players I try to communicate in a manner that is respectful and honors who they are.  It’s important to be respectful and honorable even when I disagree or we have different viewpoints.”

Washington’s family approach reduces the complications of bringing together unique personalities and skill sets.  At Penn State, it is the unity that multiplies the strength of the individual.  The team lives together, works together, and wins together.  One thing is clear, unity matters.

A DEEPER LEVEL OF LEADERSHIP

There are basically two ways to execute one’s leadership practice.  One way is that of an order-giver order-taker exchange.  In this relationship the employee serves the interests of the boss.  The other way to execute the practice of leadership is for the leader to serve her followers.  Either way of leading requires aligning actions and values.  The difference lies in the values the leader is aligning.

“Being a leader to me means helping others achieve their goals.  It means being a resource—providing resources or knowledge to help others reach their goals and dreams.  Sometimes it’s setting a vision for the person, and other times it might be serving as an example.”  “You can serve as a model, demonstrating how to do things.  I learned a great deal from Muffet McGraw (women’s basketball coach at Notre Dame).  She provided me an example of how to be a working mom in this business.  We didn’t sit down and have meetings on how to be a mom.  I watched how she lived it.  She provided an example for me to model.”

Relational principles of leadership do not depend on what sector you work in.  In today’s world of work, people want to matter.  They want leaders to improve the team’s performance while raising the quality of life inside the team.  Sport psychologist and leadership writer Jerry Lynch says, “To be a good coach, mentor, and teacher you must be a good student and learn what needs to be known from the student (the athlete) in order to teach them what they must learn.”  Lynch also says that “the way to be a success is not just to win games but to win relationships.
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“I can coach and mentor better when I know the person—know who they are.  I want to get to know them.  I’m spending a lot of time with them because I want to know what’s important to them.  What makes them laugh and cry, and what drives them.”

To anyone who cares to lead, whether as coach or a corporate manager, it should be obvious that building positive relationships is one of the foundations for building high-performing teams.  Too often we ignore our common sense when it comes to leading people.  If you want high performance, high commitment, and high involvement, put people first.  By developing deeper levels of relationship with those around us, we create an encouraging environment that shapes our future in a healthy and positive way. 

“So when we get into a rut in practice or a game, I’m going to get on them.  I’ll be very demanding—but never demeaning.  I will express displeasure at the lack of effort or focus or communication on the court. Because we have a strong relationship they trust me, and I trust that they’ll take my coaching as a way to correct problems and get better.  Again, I’m demanding, not demeaning.”

Washington’s commitment to relationship building is highlighted by her willingness to time to get to know her followers and, likewise, them getting to know her.

“We invest a lot of time in one-on-one meetings.  We do this so the players have an opportunity to give me their feedback in a safe environment.  I try to be very mindful of providing them an opportunity to give their opinion without any judgment.  Relationship building is something I’m always looking to do.”

LIVE TOGETHER

Management consultant and organizational expert Margaret Wheatley advises, “Relationships are all there is.”  She says, “We humans want to be together.  We only isolate ourselves when we’re hurt by others, but alone is not our natural state.”

In Western societies, the urge to set one’s self apart from other, to be different, is a compelling force.  However, this sets up a familiar contradiction of human nature.  That is we want both to belong and to stand out from the crowd.

To say that living together is a challenging endeavor does not undermine the desire to live together.  People will act in their self-interest until they see that cooperation with others is beneficial.  Teaming together, then, demands cooperation.  And the nature of cooperation is built on trust.  Washington knows the way to build a high-performing team is through trust.

“Trust for us is a big word.  We talk about it frequently.  I ask my team all the time, “Do you trust me?”  It goes back to the relationship we built before they ever stepped foot on the campus.  They know they can trust me, and because they trust me they allow me to coach them.”

Trust starts when you extend it and communicate openly with your team.

“I frequently tell our team, you can count on me to be honest with you all the time and tell you the truth.  Because they know me and trust me, they can make the appropriate and necessary decisions and changes.”

“We have some really honest conversations.  Players tell us what they want, together we locate where they are and then discuss what we have to do to bridge the gap to get them where they ultimately want to go.”

You also need to make sure your employees are able to build trust with one another.  You do this by establishing a social climate of respect.

“I try to be respectful in my communications at all times.  I’m working on becoming a better listener. I think it’s important to understand what others are saying, but just as importantly what they mean.  And what they mean by what they’re not saying.”

“I tell our players that how you talk to each other matters.  The words you choose to use in conversations with each other really do matter.”

“Words have a huge impact—Huge!   Trust for us is a big word.  We talk about it frequently.  I ask my team all the time, “Do you trust me?”  It goes back to the relationship we built before they ever stepped foot on the campus.  They know they can trust me, and because they trust me they allow me to coach them.”

Trust starts when you extend it and communicate openly with your team.

“I frequently tell our team, you can count on me to be honest with you all the time and tell you the truth.  Because they know me and trust me, they can make the appropriate and necessary decisions and changes.”

“We have some really honest conversations.  Players tell us what they want, together we locate where they are and then discuss what we have to do to bridge the gap to get them where they ultimately want to go.”

You also need to make sure your employees are able to build trust with one another.  You do this by establishing a social climate of respect.

“I try to be respectful in my communications at all times.  I’m working on becoming a better listener. I think it’s important to understand what others are saying, but just as importantly what they mean.  And what they mean by what they’re not saying.”

“I tell our players that how you talk to each other matters.  The words you choose to use in conversations with each other really do matter.”

“Words have a huge impact—Huge power.  So why don’t we use words to uplift, empower, and encourage one another.  And not use words to belittle, demean, or tear people down.  We have that choice every time we speak.”

 “So if we choose our words wisely when communicating with the one’s we love, care about, and spend time with—we’re going to build a heck of a team.”

Rarely can you get the results you want without trust.  Yet, it takes a while to build trust.  Trust is about how people relate to each other.  But it’s also about the outcomes of relationships.

“These young women have to be nurtured, taught how to become adults.  We show them how to become championship students, players, and championship women.  We want them to become leaders who can go into their communities—no matter where it is—and make a difference.”

WORK TOGETHER

It happens all the time.  Teams with members deeply committed to each other out perform teams with superior talent.  For these teams, the whole greatly exceeds the sum of the parts

What brings these teams victory is that team members are selfless—focused on doing what’s best for the team.  They work together to win, submerging ego, statistics, and other personal gain for the opportunity to win as a team.  The coach is at the center of this; getting everyone and everything into alignment, ensuring that the team and its members get the support they need.

“To compete for championships we don’t need someone secretly harboring resentment toward a teammate.  We don’t want a player privately thinking ‘I hope she gets hurt’ or ‘I hope she has a bad game so I can play.’  We want to take that out of the mix.”

“With my staff I want companionship and camaraderie.  A cooperative group that doesn’t care who gets the credit.  We’re not into titles.   We all roll up our sleeves and get the job done.”

Shared values build trust and link team members together.  They establish a team’s identity and support its mission.  Shared values provide guiding principles that everyone on a team can aspire to put into practice every day.  When team members are truly in alignment with one another they create a culture where everyone can go home at night knowing the team is healthy and in good shape.

“We want harmony and camaraderie in the locker room.  We don’t want players feeling like they have to compete with someone else.  When that happens we don’t develop the chemistry we need to develop a competitive team.”

What do leaders have to do differently to build and lead effective teams today?  It’s the smart coach that takes advantage of the individual strengths of her players to develop a strong team.  A wise leader takes stock of what she has and develops and adjusts her plans accordingly.
“We really put a heavy emphasis on the fact that players are not competing with one another.  We want them competing against their best effort and what they’re capable of doing.”

“We recruit complementary pieces.  Everybody has a role.  Players are recruited for a specific purpose.  They are never in competition with anyone on the team.  They’re always competing against themselves, regardless of the position they’re playing.  They don’t compete against each other; instead they complete each other.”

WIN TOGETHER

The success of today’s best business leaders depends not only on inspiring and engaging employees, but finding ways to guide team members into powerful and productive relationships; the kind of relationships where one plus one equals three.

Rather than simply issuing commands and asserting power, outstanding leaders utilize influence to gain commitment and agreement.   Further, leaders like coaches, figure out how to build the next level of capability.  They do this by connecting team member aspirations to opportunities for development.  They know how to enable and support individual and team growth—and they make both enjoyable.

Today, you have to unmask yourself to your people in ways leaders never had to before.   People want leaders that demonstrate real- life vulnerabilities while relating in an authentic manner.  In the past leaders were formal and distant, removed from their people by a hierarchical-based facade.

That’s changed: your employees expect to relate to you in a more informal, egalitarian way—kind of like a family.

“A core value for us is excellence.  We strive for excellence in everything we do.  Another core value is family.  I don’t have a Penn State basketball family and a personal family.  We’re all one big family.  My children come to practice and travel with the team—as do my mom and my husband.  Family is really important to me.  We operate as a family.  We care about each other as family.”

A recent study conducted by the Center for Creative Leadership sought to identify what distinguishes an effective leader from an ineffective leader.  After carefully sifting through mountains of data the CCL found one primary difference: effective leaders truly care about their people.   The most effective leaders are adept at showing they care by listening, publicly expressing positive emotions along with a deeper understanding and acknowledgement of how others are feeling.

“They know what to expect from me.  They know that what happens on the court does not impact how I feel about them and care about them off the court.  There’s nothing they can do on the basketball court that can cause me to love them less.”

Washington, like the effective leaders in the CCL study, understands that caring is best done one-on-one.  This means knowing what each member of your team needs to make her feel valued, appreciated, and unique.  Caring is a highly personal thing.  It’s different for each individual.

“I challenge the players all the time.  I can do this because I know they’re goals and dreams.   They allow me to challenge them.”

“We tell our players that the responsibility of earning playing time is on them.  Tell me what you want—where you want to go—and we will help you map out the road to get you there.  Then you need to put in the time and effort.  You’ve got to decide if you’re willing to put in the work to get where you want to go.”

People want to work for leaders they admire.  At the root of this admiration is showing people you care about their insights, their thoughts, their opinions, and appreciate all their sacrifices for the team.

“It’s important that we give the players opportunities to give their opinions and share their thoughts.  We ask frequently, if not daily, what they think of things.”

“In our team meetings we ask what they think.  I try to validate and honor their perspectives, even if I disagree.”

“I get feedback when I make decisions for the team, for the program.  Some might be minor decisions—others major.  I give them the opportunity to find their voice.  Not only to speak up, but to listen and negotiate and compromise.  These skills are critical to the development of a championship team.”

Effective leaders create strong cultures by putting people first.  They realize that the path to success boils down to deep, close, and trusting relationships creating competitive advantage through people and relationships.  This is the key to winning in basketball and in business.  And this is Coquese Washington’s playbook for victory.

“Tell me and I’ll forget. Show me and I may remember. Involve me and I will care.” -Your Student-Athlete The world of coaching is changing. In Coaching for Leadership you’ll discover the foundations for designing, building, and sustaining a leadership focused culture for building a high-performance team. To find out more about and order Sport Leadership Books authored by Dr. Dobbs including Coaching for Leadership, click this link: The Academy for Sport Leadership Books

This article was written by Cory Dobbs, Ed.D., President of The Academy for Sport Leadership.  The Academy for Sport Leadership is a leading educational leadership training firm that uses sound educational principles, research, and learning theories to create leadership resources.  The academy has developed a coherent leadership development framework and programs covering the cognitive, psycho-motor, emotional and social dimensions of learning, thus addressing the dimensions necessary for healthy development and growth of student-athletes.

About the Author

Cory Dobbs is the founder and president of The Academy for Sport Leadership, a national leader in research‐based curriculum for coaches and student‐athletes. Dr. Dobbs is a college educator, a coach to successful coaches (helping coaches attain a higher level of success), and an accomplished human performance specialist whose expertise is in the field of leadership, team building, and creating a high‐performance culture in the arena of team sports. Cory blends social‐personality, psychology, and applied social psychology, which means he studies how people’s thoughts, behaviors, and preferences are influenced by both who they are and the situations they’re in. He uses Teamwork IntelligenceTM to help teams explore how the mix of perspectives brought by their individual members influences their work together.

The Academy for Sport Leadership’s underlying convictions are as follows: 1) the most important lessons of leadership are learned in real-life situations, 2) team leaders develop best through active practice, structured reflection, and feedback, 3) learning to lead is an on-going process in which guidance from a mentor coach helps facilitate learning and growth, and 4) leadership lessons learned in sport should transcend the game and assist student-athletes in developing the capacity to lead in today’s changing environment.